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Questions and Concerns

October 6, 2009

My father use to say that when a man writes a book he is writing the learnings of his life. Thereby when reading a book you are learning the lessons of a lifetime. Although I am a business executive and my now significant other is a surgeon, for me the biggest lesson I am learning is through this relationship. The pros, the cons, the effect on my children, his children our ex’s. Isn’t there a way that what I have experienced can help another? Each person is different. I now. But there are no perfect endings and their are few tragic endings as well. I believe most are somewhere in the middle. I wish I could help someone else navigate the murky waters of an action which solicits such strong opinions from people and affects so many people lives. Can I help?

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Emotion

October 6, 2009

I got what I wanted. Isn’t funny how when we get what we want we are happy for a day, a week, maybe a month if we are really lucky. At least I am. I never have the ability to be in a perpetual state of bliss. People always tell me it is the journey, not the destination and now I know they are right. I love DB. I miss him when he is not here and I wish I could spend more time with him. But life is complicated. He has his children and I have mine and our families have not blended yet. We live together but when he has his kids he “nests” in a different home and when his time with the kids are over he comes home to me. That makes me lonely. There are some very good aspects to this arrangement. My children do not have to struggle for my attention because we have dedicated time together. This is not as important to my teenagers who are engaged in after school activities, homework, etc. Although I know they are happy that I am in the next room if they need me or want to chat. It is more important for my little one who is with me as much as possible when we are together. So I know this very wierd, what I think of as highly unusual arrangement has its advantages but it is difficult to remember what they are when you are going on day 4 without seeing your significant other. I miss him. ┬áCan you tell?